Ok - sometimes though trashing our Spouses , opens us up for reality checks like what I have received over past week.
It is also an oppotunity to vent. Yes I feel bad and yes I get angry, and sometimes I feel justified in being soooooooo angry at H.
An example - today I came home from work, it is a public holiday, H knew i was at work and he arranged to play golf or do something with S20 and D16 and then he was cooking dinner. I get home and H pulls up behind me. He decided to keep working. It was 6 at night. So no time with kids and no dinner. I had prepared nothing as i was expecting H to do it. Thats ok we can wing dinner.
BUT what about the kids missing rec time with him. I shake my head. I try to protect them from the hurt this inflicts and from the wrong messages he is sending them. Am i wrong. Should i say nothing to either party ? I choose not to say anything to H. I have yelled from the highest mountains about his work habits. Let him see what he will loose ! But in this case he loses, kids lose.
Keep out if it, I cant. This neglect is just another layer of this situation.
So what would you do. MC has a similar battle. I wonder if he considers the impact of a neglectful mother on his kids and the lessons they are learning everyday from a mother who shows no interest.
I try to be brave , like many of us and when we feel like hell, its great to come here and hope that someone can say even something little that puts the fight back into your spirit.
