She's probably wondering why you're not putting your foot down.
I don't think she is wondering at all, in her mind we've been working on a divorce agreement for 4-5 months already, so it's clear we're separating, and her actions (to her) are consistent with that. We are simply room mates in her mind.
I will insist that she leave if she wants to maintain contact with these folks. BTW - on Thursday we have another 4-way with the lawyers. I'm fairly certain that they will protect W from getting the immediate boot. However, they will also back me in demanding a stop to the EAs/PAs, as these run counter the the collaborative process while we're under the same roof. So they will effectively tell her also that she needs to stop dating, or to move out.
