Thanks for your response, I do know it is time to detach. I am trying with all my might. Its hard accepting it is over and he is building a life with her. I know for finances alone he is going to kill me if I dont just accept things and move on.
I did ask him to start going thru his belongings... i want to start a spring cleaning in october...big deal ..he only took a few more clothes.. the rest are all going to good will..TOMORROW!
I am very proud of myself..I said I would and I am sticking to it.
I guess I struggle with...when have we seperated and closed so much that there is no turning back..
Anyone that has been apart for a year or two..? Did your spouse completely move out? Just curious..
It is all so sad... just when we think things are looking up in life... someone walks out... I just dont understand the wishy washy -ness of the spouse having an affair.
My kids fight...one is nice to OW..the other not... hubby told D10..she couldnt be mean...please..you cant force a child to accept your cheating girlfriend..especially since it was someone my entire family befriended.
I will never have close female friends that I bring around my family again.. I know that seems harsh..but it is not worth the deciet that has been felt.
So...trying to detach..and semi dark at same time. I have no reason to speak to him... I am broken hearted... in denial ...whole thing makes me sick.
Thanks for your kindness Native...everyone on this board is very genuine..because they all feel the same pain....
