The "i'm willing to work on the marriage" portion will fall on deaf ears, since she is very clear that she is not willing to do this. That's why I feel stuck with requesting her to leave the house if she is going to disrespect me in this way. Threatening her with me divorcing her will be a blessing for her, it's what she's been trying to get for the past year...
OM has told her that he is "ok in a relationship with her on top of his marriage, and they both express a desire to be free of "traditional thinking". Which is one more reason to let OMW know first, so that I can make my point about her needing to leave once they have crumbled.
Puppy, any thoughts on the questions I posed above (here they are again?
<quote> I want to clip her relationship w/this OM, but the questions then come up on do I kick her out or not? And what about the other (single OMs) she has out of state? And... Is there a way to do this without our R going so toxic that reconcilliation is a pipe dream? </quote>
