My W stopped by for about an hour w/the kids. she asked if they could stay overnight.She told me she had to work early saturday morning. I told her I had plans, but she could drop them off in the morning, no big deal. She said no I dont want to get them up and around that early, which doesn't make sense because they get up that early during the work week. I offered several times to do this but she refused and just sat there quietly. She had planned to stay for a while but left saying "well its not your problem I'll take them to my sisters.I ask her if she had plans for the night. She said no. Why must it be overnight? I found out later one of her friends had a birthday party at a local bar. She dropped the Kids off at her sisters and went to the party. It has taken a huge amount of effort but I have not shown much of any emotion with her lately. I calmly confronted her about not telling me the truth, and got the same answer I always get. "I knew you would be mad and I was trying to avoid a fight." She was very defensive and short with me.
We had made plans to spend Halloween together with the kids and now she says I can't go. Also her B-day is next week we had planned to spend the evening together but now she says no, we could just do dinner out during the week. I feel stuck because at the time things were improving, part of me wants to spend some time together but I'm sick of feeling like a doormat. I cant get over the total disregard of anyones feelings but hers. I know with the way she is acting now that if I miss her B-day I'll never live it down.So frustrating to be ticked off and not be able to show it, or say wake up!! I'm trying to do something nice for your B-day and you could care less. I need some advice or a kick in the you know where.
