I think that I need more help with setting boundaries. A part of me wants to hit so hard on the head for what she's NOT doing around the house.
A little background, W wants to D, so we decide to separate. Only she's not fully moved out and now I don't think that she intends to; only live like she's single. Basically, cake eating. What I have done is quit paying for a cell phone, I don't buy her gas or give her fun money, I don't fund nails, hair, tanning, or the like. She is still on the family gym membership. She now has her own cell phone and pays for her own gas and fun money.
I still make the car payment and insurance. But I don't drive it. She comes and goes as she pleases and eats whatever I have in the kitchen. She buys no groceries; though she did buy breakfast this morning. She has given me one-week's daycare money for just our S. That's it.
Right now, as I am trying to decide how to proceed with this "separation"; I am not making waves. Under the guise of having PMA; I'm not confronting on issues. She has respected the boundaries of what I have asked of her in the recent past, she doesn't do the IM or texting OMs while we're all in the house. I guess I need to decide how to get her to own up to some responsibilities. I want to do it in a way that is consistent with DB principles. I guess I'm trying to find my NUTZ in a nice way.
She does no laundry, no cleaning, no cooking for anyone but herself and just is basically a slob.
