LRT when there's INFIDELITY---- from Michele

[MrsJJJ]

I know very little of the OW in my husband's life. I obtained her name because a thank you note from an apartment complex was sent to mine and my husband's home. Addressed to him and her. With a little internet search, I obtained an address, age, and her husband [maybe ex] and a couple of kids names. Her youngest is about 26.
I have no idea what she looks like or where she works. But since living at the house with only my kids, I have had time to prepare to move out; separate items; and simply just clean everything. I did find some evidence that he has known her since at least last Winter because her address was in his pocket. No name but my earlier research knew it was. I also determined she is from Russia because this pocket calendar had Russian phrases on the back with english translations in his hand writing. Mind you this was last Winter...and besides the usual Hello; Good Bye; phrases...it also had You're My Woman and I Want You. Personally, I work for a international company and different languages are always be translated for those of us who only speak english. Knowing the translation sites, I was able to prove some phrases; correct some spellings, etc except the two above that hurt the most.

So tell me...how do I find out more about this OW without "snooping?" I have an idea where she works but it is only a guess. I am certain my husband has shown photos of me so I can not be visual but I have thought of sending my son who is 22. He may have shown her pictures of the kids but the only ones he has right now is when they were little. The only fear here is...if my husband is there...the "snooping" idea will be out in the open. Do we camp out at his apartment which I have never been too...but with today's technology...I am certain cars in the parking lot are on surveillance and watched for suspicious behavior.
I do know he did a lot of emailing on 'our' computer. If I knew how to retreive some old email...I am certain I will find "love" letters or meetings, etc. Mind you, I don't want to seem like I don't respect privacy issues but in this case....I may find many lies I never noticed.