What right does your W have to disrespect you and your D in this manner? what sort of an example is she setting to your D?
I was the last to know in my sitch and I wish someone had told me a long time before. I felt not only betrayed but made a complete fool of. OM's W has a right to know......and I think she will give your W a dose of reality. As soon as I found out I managed to break the whole thing up and my H came back to me and we haven't looked back. There is no way you can expect your W to even begin to give your M a chance whilst she is emotionally invested elsewhere.
OM will give your W a dose of reality when his W finds out as he will put all his energy into preserving his M and your W will discover just how little she meant to him. At the moment she is living in a complete fantasy land and she needs to get a feel of real life. She has no impact on OM#s life and so he can fool around to his hearts content with no repercussions; your W has made that clear to him. What she says though and how she will react if it all becomes public I suspect are two completely different things; no-one likes to feel second best and be rejeted. In addition your D deserves her mother back.
I really don't know why you sitting on the fence about this one......your W is living the life of riley and making a fool out of you and lying to your D. Do you really want to live like this?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
