I had a sudden realization the other night, I read once that 80% of marriages survive infidelity. How can I possibly be in the 20% that dont? It just surprises me. I wanted to tell H, "Do you realize that 80% of husbands are better men than you?"
Don't know if they are better men, but maybe less broken and messed up or depressed or whatever their problems may be? I was depressed last year too, and still think I was a good person, just needed help (therapy and ADs for me). But you can't do it for him, he has to do it for himself, just like I did it for myself well maybe a little for my kids' sake too. But you can't do it for him. I think we have to detach and let go while they are going through MLC or depression or the fog or whatever you want to call it. Maybe someday he'll get healthy and come back to you, or maybe he won't. It took me a long time to be able to accept it, and I think I'm almost there! Karen
Karen
