Thanks Karen. I just hope that he learned enough of a lesson to have an honest marriage next time. Ive all but given up on him for now. Maybe next spring. Hes across the country now, and he seems to be going through a pretty deep depression. I worry about it sometimes, but really, this is his bed. Ive told him that I will listen to him if he needs to talk, but I dont think that he wants that from me.
I had a sudden realization the other night, I read once that 80% of marriages survive infidelity. How can I possibly be in the 20% that dont? It just surprises me. I wanted to tell H, "Do you realize that 80% of husbands are better men than you?"
It seems like he is coming back to himself, I really dont expect anything from him as far as the M is concerned, Im pretty sure that coffin is sealed, but I think that his depression reflects the fact that he really is suffering because of what he has done. That shows me that he knows just how wrong what he did was. Maybe he will recover some of himself in all of this, but that remains to be seen, I think that hes going to be paying for this for some time.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
