I know that I wasn't happy in my marriage, but I wasn't miserable either.
Ditto. I wasn't miserable because all of my life; I dreamed that I would have the beautiful,smart W who would give lovely children and we would live happily after. As I've stated before, I was charmed and seduced by a skilled manipulator who appeared before me as the beautiful, smart W I was looking for. I was hooked. I didn't fall in love with her 'til after we were married; but she was fulfilling the role that I wanted her to fill. Classic codependency stuff in the making. but then she was looking for a codependent partner; I believe, she wanted to be taken care of.
Through the years, I wouldn't/couldn't give her the romance she deserved. Not that it would've mattered. I feel based on what I know about her past; that she would have been a WAW even if I'd been the perfect husband. But I left everything that I ever enjoyed as a single man and let the marriage and fatherhood envelop me. Even my W pointed this out as late as July.
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She always felt more like an obligation than a partner.
Ditto on this one as well. I think that in the last few years, my R with the W is more of a father/child type. And this causes lots of resentments to build up in me. And right now, I've got one building as we speak.
