I think that the line between a good husband/father and a codependent is when the person loses their identity to the roles of father/husband.
This might be me. Scary to think about actually and how I could've let this happen! I did some reading about codependency weeks ago trying to figure out why this happened. I know that I wasn't happy in my marriage, but I wasn't miserable either. I've never really had that "in love" feeling with my W, even in the early days of our relationship. She always felt more like an obligation than a partner. I couldn't trust her enough to let her in to my world and always sort of held her at arm's length. Now I am sitting here asking "why did I always feel this way?"
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
