If it is to have no contact at all, then I to feel this would be easier. It was hard giving up OM. It took a long time but the fact that I did not contact him or see him made it a little easier over a long period of time. OM was good at this as well. My H has since told me that OM went to bed for a month and did not get out. I did not know this.
I have always thought that packing up and moving away would be easier but on whom - ME. Very selfish as kids need constant access to their dad if either of them want it.
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It was great that you were finally totally honest with him.
Really - to me it feels like the biggest mistake. When H only thought he knew it had been PA but I would not confirm it, then he hung around. He promised me and told me to trust him with the truth, as it was the lies that were killing him. That once he had the truth from me , then we could go ahead and work on M. I told him the truth and that was so hard to do and for my trouble that was the end of M. Soooooo I should not of trusted him.
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I understand the theory of GAL but it doesn't replace the loneliness you feel for H. If you GAL, H will notice this too. So get out there...Make plans for next weekend for sure
Me to - SPM has been hitting me with it for a while now and to a small extent I do. Right now i am organising a little joint business venture with my 70 year old mum. I focused on this yesterday and last night I took her out for dinner and we had a nice night. I am a big picture person and tire of the small details ( which makes anything you do successful ). This is possibly a problem I have at the moment with H. It would be good if i was a details person because then I could focus all energies on to that.
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if son would extend his hand to dad and help dad paint then dad would go play golf with son.
Sadly he does help. My problem is that over the years i have berated H for his work habits or addiction and have fought to show my kids the other side of life. I DO NOT ever want them to be like what H is with regard to work. With this in mind they are very very aware of his work habits and fight against them as well.
But good news H has organised something with S for this afternoon. I am at work so am not around , so no excuse to avoid kids.
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This won't be easy, Max...I am surviving and you will too,
