Convinced my M is over; trying to move forward.

[Little Engine]

I don't mind groceries, or cooking or laundry. I always liked doing that stuff. That has been the roughest adjustment of all. I was the support system for our family and I have been relieved of duty. It hurts. That was where I started considering that I was a codependent, putting the needs of everyone else in my family ahead of me. Where do you draw the line between codependent and caring father/husband? Obviously, I fell short in the H department because I am here. If my wife is BPD, then maybe that explains the cause. Mostly, I just hurt for my kids. W doesn't get it, cares more about herself than them. I don't want to have anything to do with her, and that pushes me away from the kids, so how am I doing any better? I couldn't stand sitting at home so I came into work six hours early. Plenty to do.