Stay strong, lis. You are the clearheaded one. I had a stupid myspace, stating myself "in a relationship" (meaning OM) with OM pics and everything. I'm so embarrassed to even tell you this. I really can't believe I had one. It was not "me". I was so lost and sooo living another life and not facing the reality of anything. I get sick to my stomach now thinking of it all and how immature and stupid I was. To face all that I did wrong is very painful. It will be for her as well. I hope she faces it now before she loses her family.
Puppy, I was giving her 16, but 6 may be more appropriate at times.
Originally Posted By: lwb
Barf!! Its comical how immature they are, but sad at the same time.
lwb, it does make me no doubt. And despite how sick I am, I cannot help but feel sad for her. Her life is so devoid of reality - no work, no $$ worries, no kid responsibilities. Shoot, even I could enjoy life like that... for a while!
Originally Posted By: whatdidido
Stay strong, lis. You are the clearheaded one. I had a stupid myspace, stating myself "in a relationship" (meaning OM) with OM pics and everything. I'm so embarrassed to even tell you this. I really can't believe I had one. It was not "me". I was so lost and sooo living another life and not facing the reality of anything. I get sick to my stomach now thinking of it all and how immature and stupid I was. To face all that I did wrong is very painful. It will be for her as well. I hope she faces it now before she loses her family.
wdid, thank you for sharing that. It really takes courage on your part, especially given the pain you feel. My W is lost I do believe (maybe wrongly...) - still has herself as married on her facebook page. And OM is not listed. Funny, her GF are all wanting to go down to her "Happy Place" for a visit...
Originally Posted By: carpenter54
my W already has herself "divorced" on her myspace profile.....did I miss something???
54, I have seen that on other threads as well. Wow bud, not sure how I would deal with that, although for me I think it would be the same as when my W took her rings off. Not sure though... False advertising...
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
My W was divorced on her online dating website. That got yanked after she pulled money from MY checking account to pay for it. I called them and reported a fraudulent charge. They asked who had access to my account and I told them my W might have gotten the numbers. They don't prevent married people from posting; but they do prevent you from lying about your status. Now she's enrolled at another one in the singles section.
Her FB page has her single. She won't make me her friend; but we have mutual friends. I'm listed as Married. Plus she still uses the same pw we've always used for everything else. LOL!!
I laugh at it now; because I don't care if she stays or goes. I've been a blast without her, so I'll let her make her own bed. When she finds someone that she's really interested in; I'll start making the legal side of things apparent. Maybe short of D; but so the OM will know that he's gotten himself a real winner. Maybe I'll write him a check if he takes her. LOL!!
Just kidding. I have no idea how she's going to handle that.
(((Lost))) it would almost be comical if it weren't so damn sad. I applaud WDID for sharing the thing about myspace. We are very fortunate for the insight we are given through her wisdom.
Your W is in for a rude awakening, very soon I believe. You just keep on being a "do-right" man and having some fun, and being a great dad to your kids.
She made this mess and she will have to live with the consequences of the mess she's made. C'est la vie....
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
(((Lost))) it would almost be comical if it weren't so damn sad. I applaud WDID for sharing the thing about myspace. We are very fortunate for the insight we are given through her wisdom.
Your W is in for a rude awakening, very soon I believe. You just keep on being a "do-right" man and having some fun, and being a great dad to your kids.
She made this mess and she will have to live with the consequences of the mess she's made. C'est la vie....
((((S&S)))) I so hope you are right. I think I will need to help this happen somehow. Maybe the financial stuff... don't know.
Journalling... A week ago Sat, I walked in on a phone call at 1:30 am. W said it was a friend, but I heard enough of the conv to have suspicions. PDT gave me one of those well deserved "open your eyes - who do you think it was" comments.
So today I am cleaning garbages, and this phone # falls out of the garbage in our / my room. I googled it along with a certain hotel chain that OM stays in when he is on the road for hockey. Well well well - it matched this hotel chain's location in Washington DC. AND wouldn't you know it, OM was on the ice for the Capitals game last week.
SLOPPY SLOPPY SLOPPY...
More lies, more deceit, more cr@p.
I am fine - just pis$ed off more than anything.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
At home this morning. I wasn't feeling great and D11 had a "tummy ache", so we had a morning at home. I had my work computer so I did get a lot done. Looks like I may go in for a bit and then come home - doesn't look like D11 is too eager to get going.
For all of you that have seen Fireproof, I envy you. It is not available in Canada, but I just watched the trailer. OMG - that brought tears to my eyes.
Will be back later...
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
I had a stupid myspace, stating myself "in a relationship" (meaning OM) with OM pics and everything. I'm so embarrassed to even tell you this. I really can't believe I had one. It was not "me". I was so lost and sooo living another life and not facing the reality of anything. I get sick to my stomach now thinking of it all and how immature and stupid I was. To face all that I did wrong is very painful. It will be for her as well. I hope she faces it now before she loses her family.
Puppy, I was giving her 16, but 6 may be more appropriate at times.