As the truth of xH's infidelity came out, the history was rewritten. First, he had been unhappy for the past 6 months, then it was a year, etc. I think we are up to the last 5 years of our marriage at this point. I feel that maybe, just maybe, they will in time realize its BS. Might not be a for a long time, and they may never say anything to us, but I think it will happen.
Your H's anger and sadness will cycle when it comes to you. See, how he got mad, defensive, then back to sad acceptance when it came to money? I think he'll do that for everything.
xH hems and haws, lies and leaves out, all sorts of skirting the issue when his 'private' life. He is astonished when I call him on something, like how do I have to nerve to NOT believe him?!
