I have not been on in a few days, can't seem to shake this sickness I have.
W2S,
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He ain't going anywhere. He will always want more, something to control, some influence over you.
This is exactly what I keep telling my family members. They think that selling the house is the last main hold JA has on me so they think he will have nothing to harass me about. I keep telling them it won't make any difference, he will always find something to harass me about.
Ok, I never gave the details to how I told JA off the other day.
Just a warning to newbies....My tell-off is not something that I recommend. I only did it because JA has been gone for well over 2 years, has not changed one bit, the divorce is practically final, I felt I had nothing else to lose, and it's about time JA heard MY feelings".
Ok, I will try to remember everything that was said but I know it's not going to be in the exact order it happened in.
Here it goes...
I called JA to find out if we both were agreeing to the sale price of the house.
JA: Yeah. You know we are doing a good thing here though. Even though we are taking a low offer for it, we are giving it to an Iraq war veteran and his family.
Me: DON'T FEED ME THAT BULLSH!T! The only thing you care about is that you get your money so you can run out and buy a house with your wh*re. You don't even give a crap that the boys and I are being forced out of our home during the holidays.
JA: Well I hope you have a nice place to go
Me: Yeah right. You couldn't give a crap if we had to live in a cardboard box as long as when they boys are with you they lived just fine.
JA: Why would you say that. You are making it out that I don't love those boys. I love them very much.
Me: I didn't say you don't love them but you obviously love yourself more and have been that way for the last 3 years.
JA: Why would you say that?
Me: Because you are selfish and put yourself first before the boys. If they came first you would of never of walked out of our marriage for someone else and you would of worked on our marriage. You know one day I hope you fall flat on your as$ and realize what you did.
JA: I'M ALREADY ON MY ASS!
Me: And on day when I start to date someone I hope you find out exactly how it feels to feel replaced, especially in your parental role.
JA: Well I know one thing, when you do start dating someone I won't be calling them names like you are calling her.
Me: Well lets see....She tried to get involved with Eric when he was engaged with Nancy, then she got involved with a guy that was already engaged, and then she got involved with you...a married man, came to OUR house, most likely fooled around with you on OUR couch while OUR wedding pictures were right behind you, then ran out the back door when she heard me coming home...YEP! Sounds like a wh*re to me!
JA: You hate me.
Me: I don't hate you, I hate who you have become. What the h^ll happened to you over the last 3 years? You have become someone who no one respects. And besides which, you want me to hate you because then you feel justified in what you have done and are continually doing. I tried to be your friend over the last couple of years but it got me no where. All you do is treat me like crap. You treat me like I am the one who had the affair and walked out the door. Well I am not going to take your crap anymore.
JA: It just goes to show you that you weren't being real when you tried to be my friend because now you are screaming at me.
Me: Please! Well being your friend got me no where. You want me to hate you, so congrats I hate you!
JA: I thought you were Catholic. You know Catholics are supposed to be very forgiving.
Me: It's very hard to forgive someone that shows no remorse.
JA: I never thought divorce was going to be like this.
Me: How did you think it was going to be?
JA: I thought we would just go our separate ways, split everything 50/50, share custody of the kids and remain good friends.
Me: And you probably expected me to be good friends with your girlfriend too, huh? Your an idiot. Everyone was telling you, including me what would happen if you got a divorce but you wouldn't listen. All you wanted to hear was you can go have fun, fun, fun now. I even remember when you walked out the door on me that you said "I don't care how much it will cost, I just want my happiness and freedom". So now it's costing you XXXX a month so don't go b!tching to me. I hope your "happiness and freedom" was worth it.
JA: You know I never thought that you would take those boys away from me.
Me: Well I never thought you would have an affair but you did.
JA: Oh so you did do it out of revenge?
Me: No, as a matter of fact in the beginning I didn't want to go for sole custody. You want to know the day I decided to go for sole custody? It was the day S4 was in the hospital on Christmas Eve and they thought he had pneumonia. So I called you up to tell you that S4 was asking for you but you said you couldn't come because you had a Christmas party to go to. Your damn social life is more important than your kids! When I got off the phone with you, S4 said to me "Daddy not coming?" And I had to say to him "No buddy, Daddy not coming" and he started to cry. I then realized how damn selfish you were and that's when I realized I did need sole custody!
JA: You told me not to come!
Me: That's total BS!
I don't remember anything else at this time that was said but I hung up with him and told him to have a nice life.
Friday he came to pick the boys up. I picked S7 up from school so I could have time with him before JA whisked him away at the bus stop. He is not supposed to be picking him up from there and I am tired of him making a scence in front of S7. So I picked him up and the 3 of us went to the library to return their books and pick out new ones.
JA texts me at 3:50pm and asked where we were. (He doesn't get them until 4pm) I texted him back we were on our way.
Then I got stuck in traffic so I called him and said "I am stuck in traffic at the 5-corners so I am running late."
JA: yeah, I got stuck in the same traffic. I am at the bus stop, so I will see you when you get here."
Me: ok.
It was 3:55pm, so I assumed S7's bus already came and left. I was wondering why then he was at the bus stop so I called him back.
Me: I have s7 in the car
JA: What?
Me: yeah, I picked him up so I am wondering why you are at the bus stop
JA: I am waiting to get him off the bus.
Me: Oh, I figured the bus already came. They must of got stuck in this traffic too.
JA: yeah, alright, I will meet you at home then, take your time.
Anyway, the kids went off to have their "fun".
I am trying to do some packing but keep procastinating. I just wish this cold, sore throat will go away.
No word yet on the exact closing date or when we are going to contract.
Ow must be estatic as her and JA are going house hunting together.
Oh, I know what I told him toward the end. I said "So now you are going to buy a house with your wh*re, probably have some kids and you are going to try and start your life over again with someone else. It's just easier that way for you, huh?
