Jak, It's hard to tell sometimes how things are going.
I enjoy having the puppy. He's a good companion. The only problem is that he wants to be with us all the time. He has a low tolerance for being alone at all. The dog trainer wants him to be with you all the time, but sometimes I need a break and put him in the cage. When he's with you, one has to monitor him, as he wants to chew on anything he can get into.
My W hurt her foot last weekend bumping into a door. She walks throughout the house in bare feet. She has not been able to dance, and is not expected to return to the dance floor for at least another week.
She got very upset with me last night, the trigger being that I had failed to bring an item in the from the garage that she had been waiting for for several weeks. She has these cathartic experiences every now and then. It usually involves bringing up anger and resentment about the past. There is no opportunity for a discussion. I made the decision to practice dancing with her, rather than go to bed, which is what I wanted to do.
The other theme of her rants, is that I'm not doing enough around the house. The truth is that I spend Saturday cleaning, while she sits in front of her computer. On Sunday, I do most of the cooking for the PT job, while she comes in to inspect, and at the end packs the items.
It doesn't make sense. I try to let it go. I could try to chase her vague expectations, and it would probably never be good enough.
She is able to vent and move back into connection. It's puzzling to me.
I'm not sure what to do about her rants. For awhile, I was telling her she was being mean. I suppose ideally, I should not take it personally, and let it pass, unless there is something of substance to discuss.
She does seem to be in general trying to be more pleasant to be around. She goes into episodes where she frets about money, and getting another part-time job.
The dog helps by filling in empty spaces, where each of us would be engaged in a solitary activity, and gets us out of our routines, and engaged. Instead of sitting in front of the TV alone, the puppy sits with us.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
