If toh does 'stand by her man' and show him she can and will THAT is why he would want to go back and be married. How will dumping all the work on her H make things better?
I get the feeling TOH is doing what she thinks her husbands wants to get him to return, in which case … are the changes genuine and long lasting?
I get the feeling there is a long history of either withholding things from each other or doing them and silently resenting them.
A huge lack of communication.
TOH needs to explore why she didn’t do as much around the farm as she could (maybe she did and her H didn’t appreciate her efforts??) .. why she didn’t want to ML to her H (were her emotional needs being met? Did she feel loved and desired)… why she put on weight etc.
You can’t expect anyone else to understand your motives unless you do ….
Nutty
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
