SC, you are right on the money. Basically, I was jolted into reality by a discussion that my boss had with me about getting someone to help with the kids, the EAP program being an option, and trying to keep a steady work schedule. I read between HIS lines and decided that I had to do for myself, all of the house/kid responsibilities. Because the W was out until whatever time she would get home and make me late. This was happening since last May. I NEED my job and I can't let her lifestyle put my job in jeopardy.
Once I realized that I seized control; all of my stress disappeared. This allowed me to have much better PMA, I don't bark at my W anymore, and I'm a whole lot easier going around the kids. So, I don't have any expectation of any assistance from her. That's why I know that I WILL be ok if we D. I'm already doing everything and I'm surviving and I'm happy. If she decides that she wants to return fully to the M; then at least I'll be in a much better place to work on things.
I don't think we have; but I know of a couple. Something like "I hate you, don't leave me" and some others. I just joined BPD411 and they have lots of resources for us NONS.
Cash died days before my Dad. I can still remember the hurt and lost look on my Dad's face when I told him the news. It was like "I guess I am next." Two weeks later he was gone.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
I don't think we have; but I know of a couple. Something like "I hate you, don't leave me" and some others. I just joined BPD411 and they have lots of resources for us NONS.
The other one I know of is "Sometimes I Act Crazy".
Are you in the alt univ ?
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Ok, so I'm bad. I went out tonight and ran into two girls who know my W. they know me too; but I met them through my W. Well, both are really hottt!!! The immediately ask where my W is; I tell them " I don't know". They then knew right then that we were separated; one knew that my W was fooling around a long time ago. So we were sitting and talking. Sorry M from TN; I like how you name girls; I'm going to borrow your style. winggirl21 is really leaning into me and telling me how cute of a couple W and I made; that it's too bad we're having problems. She then tells me how to come see her at her new job. Crazyblonde21 gives me a big hug and tells me how nice it is to see me. Her twin sister cuts my W's and D's hair. Crazyblonde21 is also really hottt! But she's trouble, I can tell. Winggirl21 is a really down to earth girl. We talk for about 2 hours. Too bad I'll be 40 next month; and I'm neutered. Oh well, it's an ego boost.
they dared me to text my W "R U having fun?". See, it's my night out; but W gets text about 6pm and then she gets a babysitter for the kids. My plans don't matter; if she's got plans, it's no expense get the kids a baby sitter. Anyway, no response from the W on the text message.
good night tonight. hooked up in convo with two lovely young hot ladies. Good ego boost for a near old man.
