Anyway... do you honestly believe you were as bad in this respect as your X says.... particularly since there are untruths or exaggerations in her other comments about you like your two affairs?
Chaz,
Yes, our exW's attended the same dumba$$ training....
In actuality, I did the “manly tasks”... She did the tasks inside... Did she spend more time and work harder? He!!, yes! Should I have helped more? YES! Did I attempt to make this right? YES! She just wanted to walk out...... She had no desire to even give our M a chance.... Her loss.....
The REAL question we MUST ask ourselves is this Biblical grounds for D? Is this a reason a rational person would use for D? I think it fits neither................
Anyways, I think it really comes down to them “looking” for reasons to leave.....
I honestly think my exW allowing OM into the middle of our M was TOTALLY wrong.... She should have asked me to go to MC.... She should have continually asked me to go to MC.... If I refused, she should have asked a family member to sit down and impress upon how important going to MC is.... If I continued to refuse, she should have then mentioned she saw S as the answer until we go to MC....
INSTEAD.... She chose to do the following:
Shut herself off from me..... Share with OM just how "bad" I was...... I am 100% certain OM got her to dredge up every single thing I had done wrong.... I am 100% certain OM "convinced" her I had multiple affairs....
She allowed all of this to happen...... She opened the door to the demise of the M.... She simply could have been a woman of integrity and brought the issues to me....
She just wanted to be sure she completely trashed me in her memory... She did not want to remember the REAL me...... A guy who was VERY imperfect..... A faithful guy who people think is very smart and witty.. and caring.... and who some women find attractive....Who loved her with EVERY SINGLE cell of his body.... That made it easy for her to walk out the door....
Well, she has the life she wanted in her little Brady Bunch house with OM........ He can have her...... I do not see what any guy would want with a woman like that beyond a roll in the hay.... Harsh, but true..... A woman lacking character does NOT even make a good girlfriend let alone anything more....
Oh, yeah. I understand all about the fabrications...... My exW SURELY told her sisters I had affairs and emotionally abused her.... The problem is if her sisters had 1/100000 of a brain...... They would have said, "If this REALLY happened, you SHOULD have gone to counseling WHEN IT HAPPENED." This is basically calling them on the carpet...... ALSO.... I would have said, "If this REALLY happened, you NEED to go to IC for a long while BEFORE EVEN consider getting into another R." Them jumping into another R right away says they are a lying sack of sh!t and simply making excuses..... I would say, "So, your marriage was so TRAUMATIC you had to leave and immediately jump into bed with someone else? Do I LOOK stupid!?! You are flat out lying!"
Take Care,
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 10/26/0802:02 AM.
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