My W and I are into this phase also. You have to think that the R has relaxed quite a bit in order to joke around, bust chops, and rib each other about shortcomings. I've noticed this in my R also. It's a good sign.
Sounds to me like she really enjoys talking to you. It's probably one of her love languages - along with quality time. It's filling her love bucket and she likes how it feels. Just my opinion though.
For the most part it is no different than what we used to do...our friends used to call us the "Honeymooners"..remember how Ralph and Alice used to go at it???...but since the bomb things were a little different. Now she will go right after me....sometimes even ribbing me about my past bad behavior...maybe her way of getting it off her chest without actually having an R talk or being too serious about it.
...and as far as the LL's....just can't really get much of a handle on that..maybe I need to read the book again. For example...touch. She loves to have her feet rubbed or a back massage but never returns it. As far as I can tell, except for the talking and time we spend together, or her making dinner and cooking something special...she does not show her love language by using her own on me.
I don't believe she is at a point where she is comfortable doing anything that may be taken as her softening towards me. I know that doesn't make sense considering our sitch, but I think she is still very aware and guarded in those actions....or still just isn't feeling it.
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You might want to pick something around the house - finances, organization, etc... and ask if she'd like to spend time with you working on it. My W and I have talked about getting a dining room table and a new couch. House stuff, things that need to get done, and working on it together. Just a thought.
That is actually my goal for the upcoming weeks. I know she wants new LF furniture and we have talked about painting...things like that. My plan is to just get started and see if she joins in.....sometimes I still go back and forth...wondering if I should "act as if" I am still leaving, or "as if I am staying"....it's been less than a month since the last reminder that I am leaving, you remember.
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Go with your guy on the feeling she wants to add something but holds herself back. She may be on the brink of telling you something good, but keeping herself from saying it for some reason or another - speculation of course. But your gut is a good compass. Whatever it is will spill out eventually. Time.
..or another reminder of the sitch..who knows? The last time she gave me the reminder we were having a good time, on our way into the bedroom to ML...so nothing would surprise me.
.............she is out with the girls tonight and I am feeling like I need some time home alone...tired and ready for a day off. She was cool and relaxed before she went out and told me if I was out and needed a ride home to call her because she was not drinking....now that would be a switch, her coming to get me. I didn't ask where she was going or tell her I was staying home.
