Dar.... on the going dark.... My take on it is that you go dark when the other half does'nt have any desire to connect as a couple. You can't force that connections to happen, in fact, trying to force it will just drive them away. By going dark you remove as much of the pressure from them that you can. They need to cook, they need to work through their own issues, whether they realize it or not. So, going dark helps to give them the space to do that, without feeling pressure from you. At the same time, it helps you to detach your emotions from their actions, so that you don't swing wildly (or ride the roller coaster) any more than necessary. Does that make sense? ((((((Dar))))))
