Well, see, here's the thing. I'm not sure at all that H has ever had a personal relationship with God. It's really kind of all been about externals and affirmation, and not really about prayer, meditation or service. It's kind of always been about him, which is probably why he sees nothing inconsistent with his current lifestyle and continuing toward priesthood (altho I think the powers-that-be disagree).
At the beginning what attracted me to him (we were friends a long time before we were romantic) was that he took his faith seriously; he could really talk a good story. I thought we were quite "equally yoked." Over the years I've come to understand differently. He's veered further and further off from that person who was my friend and supporter, and then there was this final, sudden shift in priorities in May.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012