Yesterday I had to meet with my L for awhile about financial stuff. We have mediation next week, so it all the details have to be written out by Tuesday. She's not going to like it one bit, I'm certain of that. If it gets that far she will have to deal with the consequences of her decision.
Yesterday when I got home, she followed me down the driveway. She actually came up to talk to me...was being really nice, etc. She wanted some game tix a few weeks from now from me, I just replied 'I dont know'...she kept asking in different methods, I kept replying with 'I dont know'..she got real mad and stormed off. Then later sent me an email saying we were still legally married and they were technically half hers. Actually, not the case since I paid for them since legal separation. Anyway, the point isnt the tix, it's the idea that she was trying to be really nice to me I guess. She seems really stressed. The financial part of this deal is not going to be in her favor and I think she's realizing that.
My L did tell me her L told her that the card I gave her for her birthday made a big impact. whatever that means. she said it meant a lot to her...I really wonder why? I find it interesting how she communicated that back to me. She wanted me to know, but didnt want to tell me that.
I feel if we get to Tuesday and into Mediation, we will have crossed the point of no return. Thus, with no change, I wrote her a two page handwritten letter. Not really a good bye letter, but it did have a bunch of stuff about how I felt, what I was so proud of, what she meant to me, etc. I didnt put in anything negative about her, her behavior, or her friends. I taped it to her front door very early this morning. I havent heard anything from her yet about the letter.
My guess is I will be 2x4'd pretty good for this. But, if the Bday card was a big deal, maybe this will help. Nothing has changed, no progress made, so I wanted to do it.
