Maybe she is hoping to get it sold after decorating, or that you might lift the order. I think that you should get your lawyer to contact your H and inform him that you will only deal with him, and only through your L. I see no reason why you should have to deal with her. You have nothing to do with her, neither does your son. Also, consider lifting the order only if your son's money is handed over as is legally his right. (Also, only if your legal counsel advises it's in your best interest to do so.) And, if the house does get rented (or sold) that your 10% gets given directly to you with no time in their hands because, clearly, they are not trustworthy. They have made their bed, now they must sleep in it, but that doesn't mean you have to sleep on the floor next to it. Look, you battled to survive, financially, struggling to support yourself and your son, while being trampled on by them, and they can't keep themselves together. You did a fantastic job and you don't owe them a brass penny.
It must be nice to have everything come to fruition. On the other hand, it might be better to just move on, let your L deal with this.
Take care. You deserve to be happy and settled.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
It might not be bad to wait with selling the house, as the prices seem to tumble further and further. So in a few years it would probably fetch more.
Make sure that you will still get your 10% should you lift the order, even if the house sells later on or not at all. Also make sure that your H will not charge you for any renovation costs and deduct anything from your 10%! But in any case, let your L deal with it.
BeingMe gave you good advice, above all don't let H get the money after the sale. Make sure you will get it directly. Your H really is not trustworthy anymore.
Beingme and Truelove, I once again thank you both for your replies and advice, believe me I wont be lifting any orders, I dont think either of them know how to speak the truth, having spoke to my lawyer, she says her advice would be to take the money and run, the 10% that I am supposed to be getting was actually capped at a minimum 10k, so he can give me no less no matter what happens. When and only when I have all sons money handed over, every little penny and when and if he pays my 10k and it is sat in my bank will I consider anything at all to do with these two. My lawyer said it is not a matter of lifting the order because the order cannot be lifted or pulled out until these two facts that ex agreed to on the order have been fulfilled. I am in no rush I have got used to having no money, I will take my time and let them struggle, maybe now he will realise life isnt so green over there anymore, I dont want him back but I would like to see him realise what hes done wasnt good for him, hes lost his son, he is about to lose a home that he only has 3 years mortgage to pay on, so he as actually been paying for something for 22 years that is going to be taken from him, hes definately lost me although I could be his friend, hes lost a lot and all for a greedy skank, and bear in mind this isnt the first time she as done this to a man, shes done it to every man that she has had, more that I know of than the other three she married, so she wont stick around with no mega amounts of cash flying about, like mentioned this is reallity and it had to get to them sometime, hugs everyone, by the way I wont let them get to me I have gone through too much to be bothered by their sorrows or them anymore
his missus was texting me last night to tell me that they hadnt received my lawyers letter yet, but she will let me know when they do. what is this all about why she all of a sudden thinks she can contact me and pretend to be a friend, it is good to see they want something from me, re lifting the order, funny how she never mentioned sons bank accounts I think what she really wanted to know was had I received the letter to me from ex re lifting the order or if I had decided to. I think she is either desperate and is truly struggling for cash, she is maybe feeling guilty for splitting our family up or in forward thinking she is thinking that xmas is coming and if she is in contact with me maybe I will sort something in the dad v's son contact for xmas sort of thing. one thing is for sure folks I have my guard up and I will only answer her what I want, I am aware that she is a deep devious lying bitch that likes her own way, well she is gonna have a struggle with me, maybe he thinks it is nice that she is in contact with his ex, pity he hasnt the balls to do the same, I am ok I am in control and I know I have the ball in my court, I will sit on it and keep living my life watching the show erupt, ha ha ha
What a strange person she is --- weird! I would ignore any texts from her, and any other contacts. Leave it to your L. They know what they need to do, but they want to hang onto your son's money, for whatever reason.
Isn't it nice to be in control?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
