WAW Won't Communicate At All

[techguy]

I take full responsibility for my actions and full responsibility for the changes I'm making.

Hey Seaglass,

I think that is awesome. I think one of the most 'adult' things we can do is accept accountability for our actions.

But my question is: Are you experiencing guilt, or even shame? Guilt is a valuable tool... it is our concience telling us to think something through. If we decide we did something wrong, then we accept accountability. But at that point, the guilt should <end>. Once you've accepted accountability, then the role of guilt is over. But so often, people continue to carry the guilt around as some kind of pennance. Guilt will erode your PMA and hamper your ability to become a better person.

Shame is an even more extream form of guilt and should always be avoided.

I've actually been reading a bunch of Eastern Philospophy lately (Buddhist teachings). They teach that you should be very 'self aware' and monitor your thoughts and feelings very closely. But when you detect a negative pattern, you should just accept it and try to stop the behavor, without guilt. Guilt does not have a place in their philosophy.

Keep your chin up.