If your attorney is not fighting the presumptions that have been made by the judge, get a new one with some balls. I understand that will delay things however you can't let her your wife cause the level of destruction she is trying to cause because you won't cave into that third-party message that she doesn't want a divorce , etc...
When financial discovery is compelled in a divorce case, the judge doesn't review it. It is only the attorneys that do so. Your wife has a monster of an attorney and yours doesn't seem to be very proactive. No matter the spiritual battle, you have got to pick yourself up by the bootstraps and position yourself to fight for yourself and you have to do it RIGHT NOW.
Pay next months mortgage so you don't go to jail and start gathering whatever evidence against your wife that is necessary to level this playing field.
Do it for your kids.
You don't have to get as dirty as she is however facts are facts and you CAN NOT let her do this to you.
Additionally, there are strong undercurrents in your sitch that have nothing to do with divorce busting. I would urge you to consider them and try to listen out for a message you quite possibly have not been open to previously. I have found time and again that you become quite open to revelation knowledge when you're flat on your back.
