TxMom- help I'm still hopeful -#2 post

[S.T. _I Made It!]

posting to save your thread. I'm going out of town today so I don't have much time to post. I have to catch up on this thread too.

But as I skimmed this first page, it sounds like your still doubting, scared, and discouraged.

I can't remember if you said you were a christian or not, but you have got to know that God is working thru this if you believe in him. I know this is the hardest thing you've ever done in your life. but perseverance and patience is going to win the day. You know that you cannot rush him, and I know it is so incredibly hard to be this patient. Your wanting control, and you feel as if you have none. But really, you do have more control than you think. If you choose to quit DBing, well, you'll have the indirect control of almost guaranteeing the termination of your M. If you continue down the DB road, it will be hard, it will be painful (although either road is painful) and it is humbling, but the rewards are great.

I know that I won my H back, but there was a time when I believed that I would not unless he was saved, and I had faith that God would provide the perfect person for me but I needed to rely on him. I know that I would have still thanked God for allowing me down that path because I was not being the person God had created me to be. But with God's grace, I can say that my H did come back and things are better than it was before.

You need to start letting go of this need to control your future. Just control the present. control what YOU are doing, how you are reacting, how you lead your life and the attitude you choose to lead it with.

Some days will be harder than others, and you'll have sad days and good days, just make sure your progressing to more good days than bad. Your attitude makes all the difference in the world.

You can do this, we believe in you, and you will be strengthened by it, and you have a great chance of bringing your H back renewed and creating a wonderful M between you both.