My H comes from a family that lives surround around drinking. FIL and MIL done alot of drinking in their day. That's what they do for entertainment. So H has always drank. Sometimes not so much sometimes too much. But when MLC hit he drank and drank and drank. That's all he did in the beginning. Many many nights out at all hours of the night drunker than h*ll driving around either to or from OW or with her. Was in many ditches and only God knows where. I was so scared that he would end up in jail, or dead, or even worse hurt someone else. Obviously God watched over him and got him through it.
It's been 18 months since the "bomb". H still drinks but back to like before. A couple here and there and weekends with family. Not getting slobbering drunk and out driving anymore. Thank GOD.
I've lived with alcoholism all my life. F, B's, S, GF, FIL, MIL, H, IL's. I went to many AA,Alanon,and Alateen meetings growing up. I knew when H started this that I couldn't say or doing anything to stop him. If I tried it would only get worse. The only thing I could do is pray for him. I did and he got through it, I hope. If not I can't help him. It's HIS life, HIS choice.
Our D's are 17 and 14. Old enough to make their own choices. But when H was drinking really heavily I just stopped suggesting they spend time with him. They didn't want to be there anymore than I believe he wanted them there. Time not spent with them is his lost in the end. Sad but again, nothing we can do to change it.
Good luck and best wishes, TOH
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
