Mandy, you sound great. Don't let these people influence you one bit. They are facing reality, let them. Through pain comes growth.
You have been in one of the hardest situations I have read. I am so glad you sound so strong. You deserve everything you have lost and more.
God is letting you witness their demise. Pray for them, but I would not get involved. They are still very toxic people. She is a very sick sick sick woman to call you. Your ex is very much a coward and is in a desparate situation. Do not trust them again.
God Bless......
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11