Mandy, There is a 50/50 chance she sent it, but then again, your son's father may have had a moment of sanity and came out of his little dream world for a time to touch base. Whoever made the contact was trying to break the ice w/your son. I found it quite interesting that it didn't take long for the ice breaker to cease.
Try not to think about it.....it's not worth your time at this point. All you can do is keep the focus on you and your son. Your son is far, far better off in the world he's living in right now, for he doesn't have to worry about having his father around acting out.
Do something extra special w/your son this weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
truelove and snodderly thankyou for your replies, snodderly can I ask what you mean by "I found it quite interesting that it didnt take long for the ice breaker to cease", I say that if ex really wants to make amends with son he will move heaven and high water to make it happen, this only makes me wonder if it was him or not, we shall find out over time I suppose. One of the things ow said was that ex was afraid of making contact as he wasnt sure what kind of response he would get from son, I told her that is completely up to son. we had a lovely weekend, son is back playing his rugby so that takes up a lot of the time and the rest we were just chilling as son chooses to call it, truelove, I wasnt affected by the floods but there are two rivers that run less than a mile away and it did get quite tricky round there, but not me, I feel for the poor soles who do get flooded though, it cannot be nice. I wish you guys all the very best in life
Hi all, just popping in to say I am still lurking and reading, but dont have anything to report, not been posting as I have had a tricky pc but everything ok, ex is off the face of the earth so to speak and no more contact from his lovely wife
hold the above post, last night wifey called me again, she must think she has a right to or she fancys being my friend, never have I met such a hard faced woman. anyhow, she basically called to let me in on the picture, funny how she hasnt done this over the last three years, what she wanted to let me know is the fact that because the housing market is at a standstill and dear old ex has been made redundant again, how hes managed that from his supposedly own company I dont know, but they are really struggling and cant afford to let our old home sit there empty any longer and are wanting to do the old place up in order for them to let it out to rent, they cant afford to do it up she claims but are gonna have to. she then tried fobbing me that really it is looking after son's investment cause when anything happens to his dad it becomes son, I am not that green as to if it sells son will get nothing as it will be blown away with all the rest that has gone. anyhow why she was calling me was they cant go ahead with their plans unless I withdraw my court order that is sitting on the house staking that it must be sold, as that was the reason he humped us out and he must pay me ten percent of the sale price, she claims that if I lift the court order I will still get my money and they can go ahead with plans and at the end it will be son's anyway. I will speak with my solicitor today, I dont have to do what this witch tells me to, dont know who she thinks she is, I personally think it is a good idea and one I had already thought they should do myself, but I wouldnt tell her that. so seen as though they are wanting a favour from me, one I dont owe either of them I asked her what ex was doing regarding sons bank accounts, she said that as far as he was concerned the courts had arranged all the changing over of the names and I was trustee, one wonders if he has told her that for a reason mmm, I asked why he hadnt responded to any of my three solicitors letters about this fact, and she claimed no post had been to their house about this and she would know as she is the one that opens and deals with the post mmmm, so she said that she would get ex to go to the banks and get this sorted, we'll see if she does. so there you have it folks the tide as turned and theyve spent the cash, are struggling paying bills and she is phoning me for help and favours. oh dear me
Chickens have come home to roost, 'eh, Mandyloo? What a coward your XH is to not contact you himself. I can tell that you are making sure all the legal stuff is in place. Good for you! This woman is obviously a greedy, ne'er-do-well, and I am surprised she hasn't already deserted your X. Maybe, hoping to get more out of the sitch, or getting too old to attract another fool.
Take care, and hope your son get's what's his, at last.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Thanks for you reply BeingMe, yes I agree to all your comments, especially the one about ex being a coward and not contacting me or son himself, well he is the one that is gonna regret that in the long run as I suspect he is gonna regret a lot of what he as done. I also think what a cheeky hard faced woman he as got himself set up with, she stole my man and my son's father, they have partied away for three years on the inheritance money ex got from his father, that I personally believe was left to him, myself and son. He turns his back on his only child for 2 years, sends next to nil support for his child, throws us out on the street, yes we have struggled alon for three and half years whilst they have been laughing at us and enjoying what was rightfully ours, now when the going is getting tough, either in their marriage or in their financial state, she as the ordasity to phone me up for help and favours and all the time she is on the phone he is beside her listening in, well honestly who does she think she is giving me the sorry story about how they are struggling, she wants to have been where I have been. oh and by the way my heart bleeds for them, the fact that they have spent up, and things are turning rough in life. mmmm what goes around comes around comes to mind, wonder how long she will stick the rough times out
Mandy, you sound great. Don't let these people influence you one bit. They are facing reality, let them. Through pain comes growth.
You have been in one of the hardest situations I have read. I am so glad you sound so strong. You deserve everything you have lost and more.
God is letting you witness their demise. Pray for them, but I would not get involved. They are still very toxic people. She is a very sick sick sick woman to call you. Your ex is very much a coward and is in a desparate situation. Do not trust them again.
God Bless......
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
trusting, thanks for your reply and hope you are doing ok now. I hear what you are saying and believe you me I will not let them trample on me whatsoever, I suppose god is letting me watch them as they struggle, wonder why he didnt let them watch me struggle. anyhow it is funny how the neighbours feel they have to report to me, just had a call to say numerous vans and her ladyships car outside the house, the painter and decorater is in, no sign of ex anywhere near, and I havent said I will lift my order, so she as jumped straight in and started the ball rolling with it all, geez they must be desperate to get some cash, oh dear me its a shame
