Tonight I re-read the entire SSM book to see if I have missed anything again. I have not forgotten much since reading it the last time and have tried most of the techniques. But I do fail miserably when I am so depressed as I am now. THe antidepressents have not kicked in yet. Did ask H how often would he like to be intimate. "Not very," was his reply. What an ego boost for me......
Cathy, you want background about his mother. Here goes: Wanted to marry a preacher but married a Marine Drill Sargent so she could get away from her angry, bitter and spiteful mother.(Who also had a bitter mother so we go back a few generations with bitter, angry women) Resented having five children in six years. Resented raising said children. Resented debts that her H left when he died. Very religious, extremely conservative, negative personality. Uncomforatable around people, including her own family. Solitary. Never remarried, not even dated after death of husband. Of the siblings, two have strong, intimate marriages. One has an average marriage. One is almost divorced due to spousal drug problem, and then there is my H and our pathetic excuse of a marriage. God I hope that I am not turning into his mom. I have talked to his sister extensively about growing up to find out about what happenned. Strong positive role with several men in H's life and he continually refers to the positive influences that they were to him. No sexual abuse experiance for my H that she knows of, and my H claims nothing ever happened. Yep, H's mom is a trip. We have little to do with H's family, just birthdays and major holidays even though four of us live within 50 miles of each other. They get along fine when they are together.
Hope this answers some of your questions.
Thanks for all of the support. I would be even more insane without it.
