I think I may belong here.

[kelaaron]

Ok wanted to post about last night. I came home at 10 just brain fried.

Worked at a clients house yesterday. Have been with this person for almost 9 years and have gotten close with the family in that time. Her younger sister is 26, two kids, and married. Sort of.

The older child who is 4, is from a man who has a drug problem. He was born with all sorts of physical ailments, stroke at 3 days old, and it is a miracle that he is alive. He is like a second son to me in many ways. Very intelligent and has no idea who his real father is.

The second boy is 2. Born perfect and actually reminds me of my S when he was little. While she was pregnant, the H was in jail, serving the end of his sentence for aggravated assault (a felony) cuz he had violated probation. They got married while he was in jail and she didn't tell anyone until after he got out. Since then, he has had trouble keeping a job, and has just made her life miserable. He is bipolar but refuses to take his meds. Ok so now we are dealing with bipolar with severe violent tendencies.

Last year, he hit his S(the baby) and left a mark. She was upset but didn't do anything. This summer, they were fighting and he hit her with a door requiring 12 stitches in her forhead. That brought child protection team in to investigate. They made him move out, ordered him to get help for BP, and left it at that. He moved back in and then out two weeks later. Got no help by the way. After he moved out, he came back and took all of the furniture. (He is living with his mother, so he has no where to put it.) Including the kids beds. Two weeks later, he took the washer and dryer and then offered it back. She didn't take it.

So this week, he took the car registration. Last night, he saw her at the park with the kids and told her he was going to take the tag off of the car, cuz he wants his car back. After she left the park, he was following her. She came to the house because she was afraid to go home. We told her to call the police, as he is now sort of stalking and she fears for her safety, but she didn't until he finally showed up. She had brought the plate in the house so he had to come to the door. He wants his car back. He decided he was calling police and then they both did.

The cop said 50/50 state so even if her name is not on the car, because they are still M, she has the right to keep it. The crazy SOB told the cop if he sees the car at her work or anywhere, he is going to slash the tires, smash the windows, and basically destroy the car. Well guess what, he can do that as it is his property too. So the cop made him leave. There was nothing he could do. Then the jerk starts texting. This sucks, now I'm gonna have to cancel the tag. Oh and the electricity is still in my name so I'm having that shut off too. Well, that was already changed, so he doesn't even know it yet. She stupidly replied, the electricity has already been taken out of your name and the final bill was paid. He replied, I saw a bill with a balance on it with my name on it. So....he has been in the house going through stuff while she isn't there.

Now i'm scared for her. I told her again last night that she needs to go the the court and file for legal separation to protect her and her kids. Right now there is no custody arrangment, so he can take the baby and there would be nothing she could do about it. That will be all he has left to hold over her or torture her with and I don't put it past him.

So I came home last night just fried. I had no real advice to give her. Her mother doesn't want her to work on the marriage and she is not mature enough to figure out whether she really wants to bother or not. It really isn't a good situation and until he gets some real help, she could moo until the cows come home and things won't change anyway.

It almost makes me grateful for MLC. Wierd huh?