OKay--it is not that I keep so much bottled up it is that at times, I become impatient. I need to learn to wait for God's perfect timing. H knows full well what he is doing and right from wrong.
H was here tonight for about five hours and he looks just awful. Seems as the days go on, he looks worse and worse.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Sorry, I have so many things bottled up inside of me and I have learned to keep so much to myself. [/quote] Mwg, Do you feel disloyal to your H when you get impatient with his drinking and attitude.I think after 4 years of living this way you are entitled. Where you not working today, what did he do for the 5 hours he was at your place? How do you see Gods perfect timing coming about? Your H will stop drinking, get a job and move home or your son will move out then H will get a job, stop drinking and move home? What do you see as your part in bringing about God's perfect timing? You have absolute faith that God will bring your H home is that the same as restoring your marriage? Do you ever think God is waiting for you to be proactive in the bringing of your H home or is it enough to pray? I don't expect you to answer the questions but maybe think on them. Yes your h will look worse as the days, weeks, months years go by if he continues his drinking and lifestyle. There is only one certainty to that and it will lead to his demise and you being a widow.Would that count as God's perfect timing. Impatience is sometimes what we need to change us and that can sometimes alter how others view their situation. I hope something gets resolved on some level sooner rather than later. Please don't feel guilty for being impatient.Your h is exercising his free will as he knows right from wrong. You have choices to even within the boundaries of faith.
NO, I do not feel disloyal to my h at all and he does not drink over here. And no this has nothing to do with my son moving out.
My part in God's perfect timing is to wait on God with me not interfering. That is what God's timing is all about.
I cannot bring my h home at all. Only h can make this decision and only God can move mountains to do this and change h's direction.
My h has been drinking for several years but not to this extent. ALso, lots of people in MLC will drink much more than normal. Of course I will end up a widow someday but again, only God will determine when our time is up. My h looks worse and worse due to depression, in my opinion, not because of the alcohol although alcohol is a depressant to so it does not help.
Impatience is not a virtue. Patience is something that is learned and something God wants us to have so that we rely on Him.
Yes, I have choices but are they the right choices and acceptable to God and between me and God.
My choice is not to divorce my husband and I stand by that.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Wow, ouch..... I understand you are very tired and angry, but you have misread my post. I never suggested D your H at all. I totally understand that. I can see you are on the edge by what you posted (in blue) and then a few hours later changed it. I didn't expect answers just that you would maybe ponder it in your heart. I guess impatience / anger has to be directed somewhere and I am a safe target. I am sorry you feel that way. I certainly wasn't having a go at you are intending to touch raw nerves. Your reply suggests I did. I hope you manage some rest time this week end.
is it possible that some of us do become impatient and have thoughts, etc. that we normally do not have? yes, it is possible and i truly believe that those are planted by the enemy.
see, i admit i have my moments of impatience or whatever you want to call it but i pick myself up and get back on track.
no, i am not directing anger at you. i think we just have some differences of opinions.
I would also like to mention that my son has been so much better since his friend moved out. I really have not had any problems at all.
Last edited by MidwesternGirl; 10/25/0808:40 AM.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I did work today but h came over after i got off work and we were together for the entire five hours. It was nice.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Impatience is sometimes what we need to change us and that can sometimes alter how others view their situation
You will see I said "us" by that I meant impatience towards ourself and our allowing certain situations and our thought processes, not impatience or anger shown towards others. Edit just read your reply, actually it was you who brought up having the impatience not my words and I quote
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it is not that I keep so much bottled up it is that at times, I become impatient.
when i spoke of being impatient i meant over a situation.
okay, enough about this............
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
