Two WAS's- is it really meant to be or walk away?

[Trixi]

Hey Loving_Life,
thanks for stopping by my thread.
My recommendation is that you invest in some DB coaching sessions with Jody.
She offers a very good perspective. What she told me is that my first step is to just stop all negative interactions. The next step is friendship.
She is VERY good at asking you questions and showing you the sitch from a different perspective.
For instance, she asked how we did with negotiating with our financing. There were several times my H got stuff either behind my back or directly against what I said. As it turned out, his purchases did not make us destitute, but that was my concern at the time. Jody rephrased it like this "So, your H would probably say you weren't generous financially." And when she said it like that, it actually made sense that he might have feel that way.