I cried when I read about what happenned in your marriage, and fear that mine is also going in the same direction. I have told my H numerous times what I need and the frequency, but nothing. Generally twice a year for ten years and we are on nine months now. My marriage has always been important to me. I have tried to help him open up and address his intimacy problems for years, but was ignored until July when he was given an ultimatum. He is trying with tiny hugs, arm around my shoulder, but no sex or anything remotely sexual. I will not initiate because he draws back further. We will try the therapy option but if it does not work, I might be single and still looking for the passion and love that I need from another man. Why is it so hard for our spouses to understand that we should not have to beg for love and intimacy? We suffer though hell waiting for the lightbulb to go off in their head but no spark ever starts the flash of understanding.
