First of all, welcome! and Happy Birthday!! My stbx/H didn't acknowledge my birthday this year either and it was only 2 weeks after we were separated. I had even gotten him a present for his bday right before we were S so know that this can be typical behavior for a WAS. I've been on the DB path(on and off)for a few years now and one thing I can advise is to try to avoid all R talk or change the subject if he brings it up. Also, try a few things to act like you're moving on and are ok 'without' him. Try not responding to every single message he sends. He might start to wonder what you're up to a little bit. When you see him during the hour he is home, act casual and nice- like nothing is wrong anymore, in fact you're doing allright on your own. If you can act happy about your "new life" without him, even better. I know it may at first feel like you are doing all the work and holding in your true feelings, but know it will likely create some results. You are NOT at all a failure. In fact, you are a success simply by picking up DB and DR to begin with! Hugs to you!
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
