((((((BobbiJo)))))) We have made some friends that will last forever, I think. I find it to be a pretty big silver lining in all of this. As time goes by, I hope I get a chance to meet a lot of them in real life, even if it is just passing through!
((((((Michelle)))))) Bulletproof would be good.
((((((W2G)))))) Thanks for stopping in. I appreciate your support!
((((((Ali)))))) No, I haven't paid for coaching. I guess I wouldn't rule it out, but I don't expect to do it. But, I won't say never. As far as the validating thing goes, I don't think it is as much a matter of me not knowing how, as W choosing to hear what she wants to hear.
W CLAIMS that she would prefer I was not conflict avoidant. I'd say that her actual actions suggest otherwise. Well, maybe not, it is ok to have a conflict, as long as she gets her way in the end.
((((((GF)))))) You got a hug for visiting at the end of the last thread! And because I like to give hugs, anyway!
Yes, I have seen a lot of W in your H. Their controlling nature, and ability to turn everything onto us is remarkable!
OK, I have been thinking. It seems that one way to start this "talk" might be to ask her what would have to happen in order for her to become interested in the M. As it is, I've been trying to hit what seems to be a very small target, that is moving besides. Maybe if it is put into words it will stop moving. On the other hand, if even then it keeps moving, I think I have my answer, as well.
In a lot of ways, I think I already know the answer. After all, it's been something like two years since this was her room (I don't think a few nights count), almost four years since there was any winking, not even hugs for two years. How much clearer could she be?
Thoughts?
Tomorrow I get to take S10 to school in the morning for "peer mediation" training. I'll be interested to see what he does. He has already told me that he won't be able to tell me what he does, so he understands that the situations he is asked to mediate are private. I think it is pretty cool that he's been offered this chance. He might learn a lot about dealing with conflict, and people. Maybe he can teach me! Then it is off to a soccer game! It's only supposed to be 89 tomorrow!
