I guess it's over

[Loving_Life]

Hi Trixi,

I just read your sitch.. My advice would be to pull back even more- literally don't respond to his messages at all! If he fears losing you, make him realize that's what he's going to get (but you can do this without filing papers) The flirting thing definitely seems to be helping you too I think. Also, I think WAS's can be motivated by seeing other new people interested in you-doesn't need to be a date or anything, just a new guy 'friend' or something. If it helps, start to think of him as X or stbx to help feel more distance from him. My stbx seems to respond to my distance. I'm dealing with the same fun issue, wants to be friends but doesn't want an R. BTW, my stbx is a musician too- and I'm also in PNW