WAW Won't Communicate At All

[techguy]

My Dad (she has a very special bond with him) has kept in touch with her and she has responded a bit but it's bee all light and fluffy. What are your thoughts on her family's involvement?

COG gave you good advice on her family. I'll give some advice about your family (dad). This one is tough. Your family are your allies and your support structure. It's natural to let them see the 'true you', who may be depressed. It's natural to want to vent to them about how badly your W is treating you.

But on the other hand, there is a downside to this. As you note, your W has contact with your dad. She will 'see' you indirectly through your dad. So if she asks your dad how you are doing some day down the road, you want your dad to give the right DB answer: "He's a wiser, better man who is strong, etc..."

So I personally made a decision early on to DB my family as well. That means not sharing my hurt and sadness with them and projecting PMA. I chose two close work friends to share the 'real me' with... they don't normally interact with my W.

Nobody said DB'ing was easy.