Been thinking about letting him feel as alone as I do by staying with some very supportive friends for awhile. Not exactly a separation, I just need to know what his reaction will be when he is alone by himself. My prediction: He will "want me back" but nothing will change. I will like not having to face the internal emptyness by seeing him everyday so I actually might perk up a bit. This is hell. It's hard to explain to your friends that you have a celibate marriage. Most of them just cannot understand why our physical relationship is so bad when the rest of our life together is okay. Frankly, I don't have any answers, either.
Went to our first couples counseling sesion last week. Frankly, I was insulted by the therapist who asked my H to try this technique to "retrain" his behavior. The therapist asked my H to put reminder messages, such as sticky notes, all over to remind himself to pay attention to me and to treat me special. That pissed me off. If I mean so little to my H that he needs to "remind" himself to pay attention to me with a sticky note, that does not bode well for this relationship, in my estimation. BTW, have not seen any sticky notes, and little additional attentio either So the idea that the therapist has has been a bomb.
Time is ticking, life is passing him by and he does not even get it.
