I am so glad to see you back here, and that you are going to go biking this weekend!!! Yay!!!!
Forgive me if I've already mentioned this, but have you read "passionate marriage"? If you are looking for new reading material I think it will totally rock your world. The title is a little misleading, but it is really the deepest book about relationships I have found. It might be really fruitful for you to read.
I am EXTREMELY excited that H opened up to you about the trauma from his past and is in therapy. that is SO AMAZING.
My prayer for you is not that you just survive this, but that you find a way to live joyfully (though I am sure that seems impossible right now).
The lunch thing sounds a little weird. I really like breton's suggestion. some balance between being there for him, and not letting him disrespect you.
