I dont know Trixi... your H clearly still cares alot about you and loves you, but he just cant commit, right? You could keep waiting and not file... or say "f it" as you said, and ditch him. How about wait and see how your night out goes !?
Its positive he is still IMing and reaching out and it looks like you handled it really well in your responses.
I'm a hopeless romantic, I believe people can work it out if theres love and a willingness. Depends if hes willing, right.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread