WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice II

[thrillisgone]

MLCers have a huge void inside them. Right after my ExW left we had a phone conversation in which I was looking for answers. I even used the words and phrase "you have a deep dark hole inside you that you can't seem to fill". My ExW agreed! They know something is wrong. My ExW even said "Something is wrong with me". What I've found is that whatever it is is very painful to face. The change was drastic as my ExW fought the guilt and shame and then turned on me with blame and justification.

LD - I get the gut feeling that your marriage is salvageable. It is just a gut feeling based on the fact that your W maintains contact through a variety of manipulations. All the more reason for you to let go. My ExW took a dive off the high dive and created so much damage so quickly that I got the feeling she denied, justified and blamed as a means for survival. For her to truly contemplate what she did and how she did it would be devastating. It was the antithesis of all she was. It was much easier to keep going than turn around. God help her if she ever runs out of steam or falls of that wild tiger she is riding.
The nightmares she gave me will pale in comparison. I've seen and felt alot of pain through this but it is nothing compared to what resides inside her. That is why I think my ExW will keep running. The same will go for your W when she realizes for the first time what she is losing. But she has to fully understand and feel that loss

Right now both these women can't feel. They are disconnected.

Hugs,kisses and passion? Those are wants not needs. They are nice. Very nice. But you'll still be breathing and wake up tomorrow without them. The sun will still rise and set without them. We're grown men not little boys. MLC is a developmental stage in mid life gone wacky. Notice our Ws left, but couldn't do so without someone waiting in the wings? That my friend is neediness