We spoke last night and so I understand how really hurt you are right now.
Discussions about "standing" or not are doing FIB no good folks. No good at all. FIB was just hit by a piano pushed from a building; so he doesn't need to hear that it is safe to stand in that same spot again tomorrow.
His W sicked the dogs on him. Don't blame the lawyers or the judge. His W is behind this. She is taking him to the cleaners. She intends to take his house, his kids, and whatever money she can find. Then she will have him thrown in jail for hiding the rest of the imaginary money. If he avoids jail, she will demand for him to pay her mortgage and monthly support. She is using the fact that he is a doctor against him - he must be rich, he must be a poor father b/c he works long hours, he used his medical knowledge and his doctor buddies against her in an attempt to paint her as a psycho or something. She is stealing his stuff to use against him. She is making his life a living hell. And her father is taking his pound of flesh as well and most likely financing this to boot.
Yea FIB ... continue to "stand" in your nightmare.
It really does little good to say I have stood in your shoes. To be a victim of a court system where mom usually wins and dad loses. A system where the mom can do no wrong and the dad must be hiding something or doing something wrong. A system that assumes the man is lying at best.
It really does little good to say I understand how hurt you are. How things were placed in court records painting me out to be just a step above a common criminal. How the woman I loved painted me to be a monster. How someone I trusted betrayed that trust. How she believes, along with the court, that it is best for the kids not to see their father at least 50% of the time.
It really does little good to say that this will pass and things will get better b/c right now that does not seem possible.
All I can say is that I am proud to know you.
I am proud that you took a blow that would have destroyed a lesser man.
I am proud that you continue to treat that bit!h with respect and love.
I am proud that you are modeling the correct behavior for your children.
I am proud you are staying the high road - with chin up.
Remember Maximus.
From General to a beaten slave.
Yes Frank, one day you will see light. One day you will scream to the crowd:
