Your thread caught my eye, and it sounds like you are off to a good start with the advice you are getting here and in your counseling. And yes... please change your name!!! Thoughts can be very powerful...what we think and say to ourselves can bring about health, or can become toxic.
I know you are going to be learning a lot about becoming a healthy man, but here's the cool thing...your health will result in changes in the marital dynamic that may awaken your W. I have been in her shoes ( losing my sexuality by becoming overcontrolling)...it may have appeared that I was strong and doing well, but I was miserable. I've had the incredible opportunity to become more in touch with my femininity, and I feel so much more integrated and whole. Your work will not only help you...you will also be doing your W a favor!!
