Kissak, Please try to stop focusing on the OW. Her marrying her current doesn't change the fact that your H will use anything and everything to try to suck you back in. He wants your sympathy for a situation that he is responsible for creating.
As far as the conversation about finances. You don't want him to move back in because his finances are messed up. You want him to move back in because he believes in your marriage, he loves you and he wants to see his family restored. Anything less than that and you are just asking for him to move back out again.
He needs to prove to you that he is not who he has been for the past 2 years. He needs to continue with his counseling. He needs to win you back not guilt you into taking him back. Please guard yourself from his pity party tales he so enjoys putting on you. He is nowhere near ready to move back in.
You say you aren't sure how to handle this. Honestly there isn't anything to handle from your end. This has to be all him. It just does. You just continue to live your life and do no harm.
So whatcha got planned for the weekend? Anything fun?
*hugs* ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
