WAW Won't Communicate At All

[techguy]

Our hearing is on 10/29. Our pre-trial is on 4/7/09.

So you have months and months until the D goes final. This is very positive for you. My C tells me all the time: It doesn't matter when the D starts, it only matters when it ends.

You have plenty of time to work on your DB. When you do have your first hearing on 10/29, I would suggest that you don't think of it as some kind of 'make or break' event. You don't need to win your wife back in one shot. Just be confident and appropriately pleasant.

Your W is trying to decide if she should communicate with you or not. It is emotionally difficult for her to communicate with you if you are a depressed wreck. If she see's you as 'balanced' and rational, it could sway her to start communicating more often down the road. That's all you need to accomplish.

Resist the urge to do something dramatic at the first hearing. It will just freak her out more.