Basically what my lawyer said is that they won't consider this an emergency because I'm working, so the chances of getting a hearing sooner than December is very slim.
I think that might be right in some areas, though. The soonest my L could get an emergency hearing re: temp support was December 3rd and she set it about a month ago. They said if we didn't take that time, it would have to be in January and that was back in September!!! And you know my H is an L and I'm a stay-at-home mom so I don't think they consider that. Maybe if you were homeless or something I'd like to think so at least!!! But yeah, that L might be right about the court dates. The one good thing is my L said since court dates take so long she's going to try to wrap it all up and have the temp. hearing become a final D hearing. Karen
This is exactly what I was hearing also. The only way to get anything quicker was if D was in the hospital and we couldn't both agree on treatment or something like that. And my L's only anticipating one hearing in all, and most of the rest of it done before that date.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Maybe you should open a separate bank account, have your salary paid into that, and tell H that he will have to be responsible for all the accounts coming out of the dual account until all the financial stuff in the D is settled (you will, of course, help him as much as you can). After all, you have been carrying the burden since he left, and just because he scooted off, does not free him from his responsibilities (as I am sure he wishes it was). If he had given you more time, then perhaps you might've found a better paying job, so it's really his impatience that is causing all these unnecessary financial problems. If the creditors phone you, then direct them to the person with the money, namely, your STBXH (give them his phone number and address). I also agree about getting a second opinion, if you can, and if its free.
Just a thought. But, I think its time for you to have a break from this crappola. It's also time for you to get tough. Oh, and don't take notice of the principal .... just break out a smile, and do the best job you can. If he/she wants to be condescending then that's her issue, not yours, 'eh!
Hope the rest of the week goes well.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Well, that's a good idea, and I've thought about doing that. But the thing is, the overdraft charges will still accrue on that account, and if they aren't taken out of what I have in my separate account they'll come out of whatever gets put in there. At this point he's had most of the bills forwarded to him anyway (to protect himself--!). The real problem is he doesn't plan ahead--never has--and is reactionary with how he's handling this financially, as well as being very selfish considering how much he makes.
So what I did today was write H an email and cc: it to my L, saying very tactfully and politely that since we have a delay, let's discuss who's going to pay what until that time. And giving him a couple of examples of how, when he just drops stuff in my lap, or "gives" me money later than expected, it affects how I can provide for D. So it goes in my legal file, with proof that I tried to reasonably discuss this. Then I let L know H's response, and if it's not reasonable, then we proceed. In other words, I'm giving H all the information he could need to make responsible choices, and documenting his failure to do so up to this point.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
PS--I have passed along his cell phone number to the callers, but generally they refuse to take it because "it has to come from him." Which is absurd and I couldn't even believe I was hearing it, until I heard it several times.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Foolish creditors, because if they don't take his number, then I guess they'll just have to wait to get paid, not so?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
PS--I have passed along his cell phone number to the callers, but generally they refuse to take it because "it has to come from him." Which is absurd and I couldn't even believe I was hearing it, until I heard it several times.
It almost sounds like they don't want to collect. They just want to keep adding interest and late charges.
HUGS to you Hmama !
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
PS--I have passed along his cell phone number to the callers, but generally they refuse to take it because "it has to come from him." Which is absurd and I couldn't even believe I was hearing it, until I heard it several times.
It almost sounds like they don't want to collect. They just want to keep adding interest and late charges.
HUGS to you Hmama !
...and heartburn!
Hugs back atcha, cookie!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
